Weary & Burdened Ep. 022: In Other Words
When we experience a deeply personal we can forget others share it with us. Sometimes first hand and others in a vicarious manner. In our hurt, we fail to see the damage done to those around us. Whether from the shared experience or the consequence of our misery and suffering. Pain pulsates outward from the source attempting to wound those it comes in contact with. Love, too, has a similar effect. Perhaps, a more powerful vibration with continuous ripples lapping at the feet
Weary & Burdened Ep. 021: After Many Days
In 2012, after David’s memorial, my blog writing became sporadic. I thought the story was over. On occasion I would update it to connect with those who’d become invested in the story. Longer and longer periods of time would pass between posts but to my surprise the story never ended. It continues still. It’s different for sure and morphs while healing occurs. Thirty days seemed like an eternity then. A whole month without David. Loneliness started to set in. People can’t prov
Weary & Burdened Ep. 020: Saying, "Goodbye."
I’ve learned a lot about grief, loss and mourning since 2012. One such thing is the importance of saying goodbye in a formalized way. Memorials, funerals, celebrations of life or a private reading of a letter near a lake, are all ways this can be accomplished. I’ve also learned saying goodbye doesn’t happen in a single moment. It’s more of a process but you need to start somewhere and David’s memorial was that place for me. Verbalizing what your heart feels is a gift most us
Weary & Burdened Ep. 019: What Day is it Anyways?
Studies show we lose our ability to effectively measure speed while driving through fog. We’re not able to use landmarks as reference and if we don’t pay extra attention to the speedometer we can drive much faster than safe or intended. Driving through fog is also exhausting. It takes an abundance of caution and focus to safely navigate in such conditions. This hypervigilance is tiring. Grief, to me, is like driving in fog. There’s no reference points for traversing through s
Weary & Burdened Ep. 018: The Transition Home
Transition is often difficult. Moving from one thing or place to a new and different thing or place is hard. I think that’s because change is hard. No matter what state you’re transitioning from or to, it’s as if humans don’t do change well. We become accustomed to things. When a transition occurs it throws us off kilter. Our equilibrium is altered. The balance is lost. Once the new thing or place is landed upon and becomes stable, we regain our balance and settle in. Between
