Surviving pain is exhausting and overwhelming. To heal following grief, trauma and hurt we need to take action. To start you can follow the 7 Simple Steps I explained above. For quick review they are:
1. Accept the Idea of Time Being Variable
2. Identify Your Pain
3. D...
Writing to and about David in a repetitive way was cathartic. I never thought about why I did such a thing. Journaling had always come natural to me; I’d been doing it since I was 7 or 8 years old.
I’ve journaled, written and re-written the same story countless times in...
Full disclosure, I’ve birthed four children and never made it to a single due date. All of them arrived early. Some more substantially than the others but never once did I mark a date with a big red circle and then get to that date.
In 2012, after David’s memorial, my blog writing became sporadic. I thought the story was over. On occasion I would update it to connect with those who’d become invested in the story.
Longer and longer periods of time would pass between posts but to my surprise the stor...
I’ve learned a lot about grief, loss and mourning since 2012.
One such thing is the importance of saying goodbye in a formalized way. Memorials, funerals, celebrations of life or a private reading of a letter near a lake, are all ways this can be accomplished.
Studies show we lose our ability to effectively measure speed while driving through fog. We’re not able to use landmarks as reference and if we don’t pay extra attention to the speedometer we can drive much faster than safe or intended.
Moving from one thing or place to a new and different thing or place is hard. I think that’s because change is hard. No matter what state you’re transitioning from or to, it’s as if humans don’t do change well. We become accustomed to thin...
