August 13, 2018

Surviving pain is exhausting and overwhelming. To heal following grief, trauma and hurt we need to take action. To start you can follow the 7 Simple Steps I explained above. For quick review they are: 1. Accept the Idea of Time Being Variable 2. Identify Your Pain 3. D...

July 19, 2018

Writing to and about David in a repetitive way was cathartic. I never thought about why I did such a thing. Journaling had always come natural to me; I’d been doing it since I was 7 or 8 years old.

I’ve journaled, written and re-written the same story countless times in...

July 12, 2018

Grief is a unique experience. Everyone walks the journey a little different than everyone else. No two experiences are identical.

There are similaritieswith most common being the grievers search. It’s not to forget. It’s not to move on. It’s not even to have the pain go...

July 5, 2018

Full disclosure, I’ve birthed four children and never made it to a single due date. All of them arrived early. Some more substantially than the others but never once did I mark a date with a big red circle and then get to that date.

June 28, 2018

When we experience a deeply personal we can forget others share it with us. Sometimes first hand and others in a vicarious manner. 

In our hurt, we fail to see the damage done to those around us. Whether from the shared experience or the consequence of our misery and su...

June 21, 2018

In 2012, after David’s memorial, my blog writing became sporadic. I thought the story was over. On occasion I would update it to connect with those who’d become invested in the story.

Longer and longer periods of time would pass between posts but to my surprise the stor...

June 14, 2018

I’ve learned a lot about grief, loss and mourning since 2012.

One such thing is the importance of saying goodbye in a formalized way. Memorials, funerals, celebrations of life or a private reading of a letter near a lake, are all ways this can be accomplished.

I’ve also...